“I don’t need to worry about what I look like, I’m married now” I have heard this over and over in passing and in direct conversations and it really ruffles my feathers. Although it’s intended to be said in a light–hearted manner, I truly feel that there is some truth behind this statement for many people. It’s ok to feel relaxed and be “comfortable” around the one you love. Being comfortable is one thing, but letting yourself go is another. It’s important to maintain your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being after finding a spouse for multiple reasons.
If you lose sight of maintaining healthy habits then your relationship can suffer. It can suffer due to lack of effort, energy, attraction, sex, conversation, spiritual practices, positive growth, and respect. I could add others to this list, but I think you get the idea. I have seen first–hand through certain friends, clients and family members of how the stress of not taking care of yourself can play a big role in the outcome of a relationship. It’s important to be the best possible person you can be for yourself and your loved one. Try to continue “courting” one another during marriage. The energy you put into a relationship is exactly what you get out of one. This includes the energy you put into taking care of YOU!